Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Family Matters

After spending over a week on a road trip with the in-laws, I have to say that I have a lot to think about considering our future children's extended family. How do you protect your children from close-minded, harmful beliefs?

I appreciate Momma B's parents; they are helpful, supportive, and can be very loving. I also worry too because when you hear your partner's father say it's one thing to have and accommodate a gay daughter, but he would never accept a gay son ... um, it's a bit of a shock to your system. On the one hand, it's a blanket statement that cannot necessarily be taken at face value because he doesn't have a gay son, thus he doesn't know if that is indeed how things would work out. Yet it also makes me worry because what if we have a son that turns out to be gay ... will those beliefs/feelings/opinions carry over to a grandson?

Obviously this is something that has to be dealt with if or when it ever happens, but I think about it now because I also do not want my children raised hearing such biogtry from someone they will come to love and trust.

Yes, I am a worrier by nature. In addition, I am a strong believer in being prepared. I am also open to what others have to say; advice welcome.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

My head is going to @#$%&! explode, or why taking Clomid on a road trip sucks

Day One on Clomid: in a car headed to Colorado. Not a great combo I quickly found out. It could've been the stress of leaving late and forgetting things. It could've been the change in altitude. I blame it on the Clomid (we were only in Arizona when it started, after all). It was mild, but constant so I didn't take anything for it and just went to bed.

Day Two on Clomid: woke up with a near migraine. Almost went into panic mode because the pain was so bad and I left my Maxalt at home. Thankfully, I didn't cry and, even luckier, six Advil did the job!

Day Three on Clomid: no headache, but we're staying put in Pagosa Springs for now. Guess Car + Clomid = major pain in the ass, er, head.

Thursday, September 16, 2010


I guess our dog, Kayin, is not so excited about the possibility of a gayby in the house. =)

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Day One

Never have I been so excited to start my period.  Today I am.  I can now start counting.  Thankfully, I've been keeping track of my periods for nine months and am able, I think, to safely estimate when I can test for my LH surge. 

We leave for vacation on Friday.  I start testing the day we come home and hopefully go for my first IUI shortly thereafter.  Nothing like a little rest and relaxation to start things off right!

 Trying to Conceive Ticker

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

We've only just begun ...

I love watching A Baby Story.  The stories of mothers before, during, and after labor.  It's neatly tied up in a half-hour package.  It never truly covers what leads up to the pregnancy, nor does it cover all that happens afterward, but I love it all the same.  Of course, I'm a labor and delivery nurse ... and that is the part of parenthood that I witness every day at work.  It is the extent of my knowledge of babies and mothers.  That is going to change and soon. 

The process of making our gayby has already begun.  I met with my OB/GYN, did the blood work, got the hysterosalpingogram, found our donor and purchased sperm, and will begin my first course of Clomid this month.  Every test thus far has come back normal.  All that remains is to be inseminated and hope that it works.  I am excited and I am nervous.  My partner is excited.  Apparently, she's over the nervous stage. 

I couldn't have asked for a better partner to raise a child with and I am glad to be at a point in my life where I am finally ready for a family.  At 34, I just shrug and say better late than never.  I'm a late bloomer.

So this is my space to share my experiences, my thoughts, my joys and my fears.  It is a space that may be named on my sexuality and my experience as a lesbian mother, but it will not be defined by these limitations as I believe my experiences will be far more universal.

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