Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Family Matters

After spending over a week on a road trip with the in-laws, I have to say that I have a lot to think about considering our future children's extended family. How do you protect your children from close-minded, harmful beliefs?

I appreciate Momma B's parents; they are helpful, supportive, and can be very loving. I also worry too because when you hear your partner's father say it's one thing to have and accommodate a gay daughter, but he would never accept a gay son ... um, it's a bit of a shock to your system. On the one hand, it's a blanket statement that cannot necessarily be taken at face value because he doesn't have a gay son, thus he doesn't know if that is indeed how things would work out. Yet it also makes me worry because what if we have a son that turns out to be gay ... will those beliefs/feelings/opinions carry over to a grandson?

Obviously this is something that has to be dealt with if or when it ever happens, but I think about it now because I also do not want my children raised hearing such biogtry from someone they will come to love and trust.

Yes, I am a worrier by nature. In addition, I am a strong believer in being prepared. I am also open to what others have to say; advice welcome.


  1. Hey! Just came across your blog. Good luck with this first cycle. I hope it's also your last!

  2. Thanks, Nicole! I hope so. I've been following your blog for a little while. Good luck to you as well. =)

  3. I have the same issues. But I have learned to just look past it, for our future children sake.

  4. Mrs. Graff, I think I'm going to have to agree with you for now. Honestly, I'm not sure there's another way to deal with it other than being completely confrontational ... but if something is said to them in my presence, I am going to have to speak up. So, we'll see!

  5. Don't despair because people can change. My FIL didn't even say hello or take my outstretched hand to shake it the first time I met him. Now he's my bud and loves us more that I think he knows how to say. How do I know, he gave us his 'baby' to drive home and told us to keep it as long as we needed when our car broke down on a trip up to South Lake Tahoe where my in-laws live! My FIL has come a LONG WAY, and for a good ol' boy from Tennessee I'm talking about here then anybody can open their mind and heart more than they know.


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