Thursday, July 26, 2012

Schedule? What Schedule?!

Momma B had to return to the real world on Monday and I've been on my own taking care of PB&J for the last four days.  I miss Momma B!  It's not just her company - though I miss that greatly - but the extra hands.  I knew it would be a transition, but I had a lot of optimism that it would be so easy.  

I think these boys sensed that as well since Monday went so smoothly.  Eating every three hours, napping together, minimal fussiness - it was wonderful!  Each day since has not been so breezy.  Tuesday we did manage to take a walk and yesterday we also were able to go visit a friend for a few hours.  However, past the first meal of the day they are starting to do things on their own time.  PB refuses to nap after his first feeding around 7 while J snoozes away and I'm nodding off having gotten up between 3 - 4 am to feed J and again around 6 as Momma B gets ready for work.  Of course, after they both eat again around 10 PB passes out and J is wide awake and ready to be entertained.  Thus the rest of the day is spent feeding one then another, putting one down when the other gets up, etc.  I'm barely able to eat let alone get anything done around the house!  This afternoon I put them both down at the same time, praying they'd both fall asleep (or just entertain themselves in their cribs) so I could finally take a shower and eat something.  It worked!  Now most things I've read says at 10 weeks it's a little early for a set schedule, but I don't think it's too early to at least start trying for some sort of routine.  For my sanity, it needs to happen!

Nothing more precious than watching these boys sleep!
Now don't get me wrong, I'm extremely thankful we have two wonderful sleepers on our hands.  They both have been sleeping through the night for the last three weeks.  Bedtime has been pretty consistent between 7:30 - 8.  J routinely sleeps at least 8 - 9 hours, getting up between 3:30 - 4:30 am then going back to sleep for another few hours.  PB really blesses us as he's been sleeping 11 - 11 1/2 hrs, getting up at the same time as J between 7 - 7:30!!  They take 3 - 4 naps a day, ranging from 45 minutes - 2 hours at a time.  I know we're very lucky, though I will take some credit as I read a multitude of books and other online resources to figure out what we could do to help them figure out their days and nights and sleep longer stretches at night without having to resort to CIO or any other stressful methods.  So I won't discount any of that.  

I don't want to seem whiny or inconsiderate, as I know how blessed I am to care for these amazing little guys.  They make me happier than I could've ever thought possible.  But I'd love to be able to keep life going and not have everything put on hold because every minute is spent feeding, cleaning, or entertaining babies.  I'd like to shower daily, at least!  

So I'm going to keep on keepin' on.  It's bound to stick one of these days, right?!  

If any of you can relate and have success stories - twins or no twins - I'd love to hear them!  It's motivation and maybe what worked for you can for us too.   

5 comments:

  1. I have no success stories. I need to learn from you! My twins are four months old and still get up every 2.5-3 hours all night. :-( We go to the doctor next week and hopefully she'll help us get on a more spaced out feeding schedule. I still have trouble finding time to go to the bathroom and I don't even think about taking a shower if I'm home alone with the boys!

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  2. I just have one, but putting him on a routine was the best thing I ever did. I was going insane, between him not napping during the day and then staying up late and having no set bedtime that I could count on, plus I'm breastfeeding so I'm the only one who can feed him (he refuses a bottle) and partly because of that, I'm the only one who can soothe him as well.

    I started it at about 3 months after reading The Baby Whisperer. I just take what she says with a grain of salt and tailored it to our needs, but basically her idea for young babies is they should be on a predictable routine that revolves around sleeping every 90 minutes. It helped me because he started napping fairly quickly and it gave us some structure to our day, as well as teaching me about transitioning between play and sleep and making sure he was ready to sleep and wasn't all riled up from playing and then I just want him to fall asleep and it doesn't work that way.

    Our routine is a lot different than it was in the beginning, now that he's 11 months, but I still have a routine that I change as his needs change (for example, he only takes one nap a day now) but it's still great for us because he knows what to expect and I know what to expect and there's a lot less of that "how am I going to fill the next x amount of time?"

    Anyway, blah blah blah. Feel free to email me if you want more details. It's hard at first, but consistency is the key - keep at it and they'll catch on pretty quickly. We went from aimless days with lots of overtired screaming (sometimes both of us) because I didn't recognize his cues to days with no crying at all. What a relief.

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  3. Aww...they are so sweet cuddled up together! Lynn is trying to get EJ on some kind of daytime schedule, too, now that I'm not there and the milk needs to be rationed a bit. I can't imagine trying to get two of them on the same timeline!

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  4. Hang in there, you're doing great! It just gets better and better, I promise.
    It helped us to always feed them at the same time. Always. We put them down for naps together too, I think they'll get used to the new program quickly. With multiples, it's all about routine!!

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  5. Wubbanubs! We have a Froggy and a Red Dog (as we call them) ;) the girls love love love them!

    We don't have much of a "success story" when it comes to sleep-- yet. Working on that. As for feeding, this is the full run-down of how things have gone for us (but it's very detailed and includes way more than just scheduling): http://twopinktulips.wordpress.com/resource-pages/breastfeeding-twins-month-by-month/ Also, most of my posts these days are about sleep, so I'll eventually compile that and write about how we got onto a magical schedule-- because that WILL HAPPEN SOME DAY! I will keep believing that...

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